With the festival season round the corner, being a Mom can be challenging sometimes! Added to our already full schedules, we have a lot more on our plate now.
Before you throw in the glove and alienate yourself and your baby from the extravaganza going around, let me give you some tips on how to maintain your Nirvana-ma status through this festive season:
- Dress up a few days before: Dressing up is one of the topmost time-consuming activity during festivals. I love dressing up. I shall be frank about it. If the festivals come and go and I don’t have a good decked up day, its enough to cause me depression. So if you are like me too, lets get you all decked up and ready to go without losing your mind. The best tip I can give in this area is to be prepared a few days before. If you haven’t yet got your dress dry cleaned, ironed and starched- do it right now! (If you can get up in the middle of this post too- I shall not take offence! Dressing up is more important, I agree! Go, run…)
- Dress up in abundance: I don’t mean getting that over-cakey look! I mean keeping a dress or two extra for each occasion. You never know when your bub (or you) spills something on your dress and you need a quick change! Coz that’s what comes with being a mom- you can never just dress up and sit pretty! You shall be most likely feeding the baby, running after the kid, cleaning potty at the most undesirable moment in your decked up avatar too! So have a back up!
- Be color coordinated: I usually like to breeze through my festive times in one color. If I have picked the red spectrum, I shall be in reds, oranges or pinks for all the parties of that time! Its not that I have a problem with identifying colors! Its just that I don’t have to do the jewelry and shoes and clutch and nailpaint dance too often. In case I have red nailpaint on, it might go with my next dress which is orange! But having the previous day’s blue nailpaint with an orange dress- I have been there- and its not a happy state!
- Have the same above three rules for the kid: Even with your kid remember time, abundance and color- are equally important too. So follow the above logic with your bub too.
- Keep the kid comfortable: Imagine a stressed up saree clad you having to untie and tie-up your lil ones lehenga several times coz it just keeps falling down with her monkeying around! Let me tell you a golden secret of kids- they might like smearing lipstick all over their cute face, but when it comes to clothes- they like comfort. I have taken my daughter in shorts and a tee for weddings too. And nobody seems to care! And to top that- the kid runs hassle free while you balance your way around the party in your stilettos!
- Always have food packed for your kid: I cant stress on a tip more important than this! No matter how early or late you are leaving. No matter how close the friends are who have invited you over for dinner. Always – I repeat- always have food packed for your little one before leaving. Nothing can be more stressful than a hungry cranky crying baby in the backseat! You know your kids taste, likes, dislikes best. You only know that you have forced Gobhi down your kids’ throat for lunch so most likely she will detest having the same for dinner! And as moms you know Murphy’s law too well now- if your kid has had Gobhi for lunch, there are cent percent chances of Gobhi being the star dish at your friend’s dinner party too!
- Have your kids nightdress in her bag: We all keep a change of clothes for our kids for sure. But its always a good idea to keep her night clothes too. Change her into her nightdress half an hour before you leave from the party. We all know too well how a tired baby goes off to sleep in the car! And sleeping in a lehenga is no fun- right?
- Give yourself a break for a few days: I know I am a big crusader of keeping the daily cycle of your kid identical throughout the week. However, give yourself and your kid a little Diwali break! Its okay if she sleeps a little late for a few days. Its okay if she eats sweets for dinner for a day! As long as you get back into your daily routine a day or two before school reopens, she is going to be just fine.
- Know the reason you are celebrating– Know why you are celebrating a festival. I am not talking of the mythology. I am talking about your personal reasons. To meet friends and family. To socialize. To have a drink or two. To dress up. To dance. Right? Not to get hassled, scream at your kid, have sulky selfies, grump and complain- isn’t it? Remember your reasons well and ignore the smaller hiccups. Eg- if your child has spilled water on her dress and you opt for finishing your glass of wine before changing her- you are justified! Don’t worry. I know there will be millions of people who come hurrying to you in disbelief that you are sitting while your baby has (exactly two spoonfuls) water on her dress- just smile and say you will just do the needful….and carry on with your wine!
- Have breakfast ready for the next day before you leave for the dinner party: Last but not the least, this tip comes in handy to sail through your festivities. Mostly we come back so late from dinner parties that we just throw our shoes and snore off! The reality hits you when you get up all groggy the next day and need to fix up a quick breakfast for your kid who has decided to get up at 7 am itself! I usually do a scanning of my fridge before I leave for my dinner party and decide what is to be made for breakfast the next day- for the kid and for the rest of the family. If it needs little preparation like slicing onions or tomatoes for say an omelet, I do it before leaving for the party. This way when I get up the next day and in case the maid has not shown up in time (remember Murphy works overtime for moms!!) or in case you have no help with fixing breakfast- all you need to do is plop the already chopped stuff with eggs and make an omlette! Works wonders to have a less stressed morning. It gives you the energy and power to face the day as it unwraps!
So with this quirky yet useful tips, have a blast of a Diwali and a prosperous year ahead!
And oh yes! The most important tip to attain Nirvanama status during these festivities- be calm and smiling…..Nirvana will soon follow!
(Pic courtesy: Tanishq jewellers)